I would rather talk on the phone with a live person and good friend, than read all of the loud toned posts wherein people insist that everything is so wonderful all the time. It just got to be too unreal, I was comparing myself too much, and it became negative. I deactivated my account.

I have used Facebook for 2 1/2 years, and have experienced a lot of self-promoting, narcissistic behavior on there. A lot of the people on it (whether you like it or not) like to use it as a platform for glamorizing their social lives (or lack thereof), whilst possessing a collection of thousands of faces they have never once exchanged messages with (and never will). For people who aren’t very “social,” looking at photos of other people showing them having a “good” time only wrecks one’s own self-esteem, and makes them feel utterly worthless in comparison. It’s those kinds of photos of people who look all “happy” and are shown meeting lots of people at an event, having crazy drinking parties, etc.

Many of the people I had added on Facebook in the past would usually ignore me, no matter how many times I would greet them. And instead they would turn around and keep spamming up their walls with stupid apps or TMI-quality posts that honestly no one cared about (unless you’re a stalker). (I know there are some people who would respond to you almost all of the time, but sadly they are in the minority, and with millions of people on Facebook it’s difficult to find the right person who actually gives a shit about you as a person first and foremost.)

On Facebook, the value of friendship seems to have been lost as it tends to lean more towards compiling a huge mass of random strangers rather than putting yourself out there to get to know each and every person you add a little better. This was my main gripe with MySpace, and since its demise Facebook is carrying the torch of social solitude onwards. To add more insult to the injury, people are getting out much less and they are spending more time trying to attract online attention (be it uploading a truckload of personal photos, embedding a thousand YouTube videos a day, or what have you).

Perhaps Facebook wouldn’t be such a bad site at all if more of its users posted things that were the least bit interesting, as opposed to downright stupid wall posts like “i think pee smells like cheerios.” And as for those who are saying it’s more the problem of the people on there as opposed to the site itself, I rather like to think of Facebook as another online forum: if the community sucks for the most part, I am less likely to stay on there, no matter what “nifty” features are there.

Good riddance of that shit. I don’t care if you still use Facebook, but regardless of what you try to convince me otherwise with I refuse to return to Facebook, out of disgust for that site. I don’t have time to worry about that crap because I have a life of my own to worry about, and that to me is the real deal of socializing.

If you accept my friend request and I message you, not once, not twice, but THRICE within just about a week and you don’t respond AT ALL (while taking the time to “like” silly status updates and spamming random bullshit on your wall all day long) then this pretty much proves my point.

Social networking is the worst form of, well, socializing. I live my life outside of the computer, having fun with friends. Not sitting alone in my room, hoping that really cute girl I’m stalking “liked” the poem I wrote her.

- Instead of just clicking on the “Like” button on all of my friend’s photos I will phone or hang out with them and tell them that they look great, and we will have hours of discussion (probably on just the photo itself!)

- Instead of posting about what I just had for breakfast for all my 3,000 “friends” I will only call up less than 5 of my TRUE friends who truly care about what’s new with me every once in a while

- Instead of playing FarmVille I will be working on my own garden because I value hard work and dedication over point-and-click

- Instead of posting a million photos of myself in various retarded poses I will keep them to myself so that I don’t embarrass myself

Facebook is a disease not to just us but everyone else as well. Real Life has helped me be a much better person. Facebook is like Jesus to these e-losers; let them have their gods and their religions and we will keep our sanity while living in the REAL WORLD, away from bozos like them.

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